Porn For Me: Valuable
I wrote this when I was reading An Uncommon Whore, and I wanted to play around with the memoir-esque resigned matter-of-factness of a sex slave demonstrated by the main character. I had to really fight...
View ArticleThe Funny Things People Say in Porn
So I’ve been reading a lot of polyandrous triad porn lately. Or trying to. Skimming is generally a better word, to the sex parts, if they’re good, then skimming to the next. I found one example that...
View ArticleOn Kissing
French kissing. Making out. Not body kissing. Not throat kissing and teasing the fine hairs on someone’s skin with lips. Not just pressing lips together. It’s so common it just gets called “kissing,”...
View ArticleUnexpected Tools of Masochism
Limp Carrot The big ones that haven’t been trimmed down, when they get all dehydrated and wrinkly but still have some heft. Hold the skinny end and hit with the top. Very satisfying impact. I bruise...
View ArticleThe Vee
So I’m in another sex V. But for real this time. Although, the fact that last time my partner’s former partner and I were not having concurrent sexual relationships didn’t really matter much. The messy...
View ArticleOn Finding It Where You Can Get It
Bema is not into pain. They’re into enduring, but not in the sex way. Could definitely be hot in certain circumstances. So my sadism is not getting its rocks off. My masochism, on the other hand, is...
View ArticleThe Past 6 Months: Bema
So for the past six months I haven’t been writing here, largely because I’ve been in active sexual relationships and all of the interpersonal figuring-out that entails, and it was too overwhelming to...
View ArticleResources on Transitioning into the Poly
So instead of my promised post on how I briefly got a playpartner (still coming), I have a request from myself and interested parties for poly resources. Specifically books or other in-depth material...
View ArticleHorny vs. Horny… vs. Horny
Today I was horny to the point of distraction. And having an allergy attack. It was not a productive combination. Yesterday I was also horny to distraction. The day before I was pretty damn horny and...
View ArticleYou Get What Everyone Gets. You Get A Lifetime
Digging through my stuff, finding some longhand writing from a couple years ago that might as well live somewhere outside of a dusty box. ~~~ I am three years old. On the bridge between two bastions of...
View ArticleBegin Again
I haven’t known what to do with this blog for a long time. I got really caught up in my relationship with my partner and its attendant growth spurts, joys, and crisis, and well, living. Which was...
View ArticleTrying “The Scene” Again
So I’ve been participating in The Scene again for almost a year now. I went in as a young, unpartnered, female, queerish/genderfluid-but-non-presenting, dominant/sadistic/toppish person with a stake in...
View Article6 Year Retrospective – Part 1
It’s been six years since I started this blog, opened myself to my sexuality, and started exploring the kink/BDSM community. I’ve evolved, my perceptions have changed, or deepened, or become more...
View Article6 Year Retrospective: Part 2
Then I Was Stumped by The Gender Galaxy, Now I Resent When It’s Not Around Going through old posts, I ran across one where I proclaimed myself stumped by the gender galaxy. And I went, “Really???” Now...
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